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When I first set out to write these blogs it was like my pen had a mind of its own. Some took more time than others, but for the most part, because they were all my life experiences, everything went pretty smoothly. I actually had a year's worth of work within about three months, and all done before the first one was launched. But this one, this one has left me in the corner of a boxing ring weaving, about to fall flat on my face, and I am only on the first paragraph!

What is a father?

Wikipedia says that the father has "a paternal, legal, and social relationship that comes with certain rights and obligations," (WHAT)! And then there's my favorite, "male genetic contributor to the creation of the infant through sexual intercourse or sperm donation." (Not kidding, look it up)!

Is that all we are, a contributor, or are we missing something truly great here?

Growing up there was no shortage of men in my life trying to take on the role of father. In fact, in the Catholic school I went to, there were no less than ten men demanding that I call them father. Then on Sunday, they insisted that I had only one Father, that being my Father in heaven. Not to mention my biological father turning out to be the perfect example of what not to do.

Confused yet? Welcome to my childhood!

I see it this way. If you think that you are ready to have a child, ask yourself this question. Am I ready to teach what I know and reproduce what I am at this moment? I would hope that most of you would have the insight and intestinal fortitude to say NO! And men, I am speaking directly to you! Think about it, how can you teach what you don't know, never experienced and don't understand?

I see young men in the work force that are absolute unguided missiles, and they say guns are dangerous. Is it any wonder, then, how many of the so called mass shootings have been carried out by young men that are in one way or another fatherless.

But I digress..If we can see in society the results of the absence of a true masculine father figure, then would it not stand to reason that the presence of a God fearing balanced father figure would be a benefit? Remember men, Proverbs 4:7 says, "The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom, though it cost all you have, get understanding." And James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."

If you love your children like God loves you, and I know you do, then love them enough to do the hard work! And so for the love of God,


Am I ready to teach what I know and reproduce what I am at this moment?

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